It has been my experience that speaking the truth with love, especially when the desire is to heal a relationship, can cause considerable pain, often to all involved. Truth can bring undesired awareness and then it is no longer possible for those involved to go on as they once had. The going forward will take considerable effort and, most likely, a desire to move from the status quo into the unknown. So we quietly shy away from the hard work of real reconciliation because it requires humility and a willingness to leap into the unknown, often with one's enemy.
But reconciliation is also a reminder that to re-unite means that our starting place was once unity. Union with God. Union with one another. One with all of nature. We are just striving to get back to that original state of oneness.
Be brave. Be daring. Take a leap for reconciliation.
“Forgiving and being reconciled to our enemies or our loved ones are not about pretending that things are other than they are. It is not about patting one another on the back and turning a blind eye to the wrong. True reconciliation exposes the awfulness, the abuse, the hurt, the truth. It could even sometimes make things worse. It is a risky undertaking but in the end it is worthwhile, because in the end only an honest confrontation with reality can bring real healing. Superficial reconciliation can bring only superficial healing.”
― Desmond Tutu
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